Career Shifts, Confidence, and Coaching

Welcome the awe-inspiring Ledi.  In this episode we dove deep into conquering limiting beliefs and embracing daily self-empowerment. Ledi shared her remarkable journey from stage performer to entrepreneurship, underscoring the life-changing power of accountability, personal development, and the courage to redefine ourselves. We affirmed that no challenge is too great with the right mindset, and the cruciality of reaching out for support in both personal and professional realms. If you're ready to harness your inner potential, silence the inner critic, and take those bold steps towards your goals, join us on this transformative episode – because your journey to greatness starts with believing you're worthy of it. Don't miss it!

00:00 Pivot from music to IT for ideal clients.

03:34 Discovering purpose and serving beyond money.

09:08 Coaching: transforming mindset to serve and grow.

10:53 Focus on helping those who are willing.

13:03 Encouraging deeper connections by asking "how do you feel?"

18:27 Seeking accountability after having second child.

21:01 Easily find support in Facebook groups.

23:09 Speak in public, share your experiences confidently.

27:53 Practicing empowering beliefs for personal growth.

31:01 Focus on small steps to achieve goals.

35:27 Big vision, empowering women for future success.

38:03 Reading books on growth and self-improvement yearly.

40:42 Get help to reach your superpower faster.

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Transcript

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She was launching her, her program. And she said 6, 000, I turned around, I have my baby, my second baby. So now one is almost two years old and the other one's a few months old and I'm holding him in the middle of Santa Domingo and I'm going, Oh, six grand Hey guys, welcome back to the show. I'm your host, Jen Lander. And today we have an incredibly special guest whose journey is as unique as it is inspiring. She is a strong and beautiful Albanian woman who stepped foot into the music industry, making waves, but her talents and ambition didn't stop there. She's graced the stages of reality TV and shared her wisdom through public speaking. And now she's here to share her latest and perhaps most transformative role yet. Please welcome. Leddy a remarkable woman who, after starting her family made a significant pivot in her career from the limelight of entertainment and music. Her success continues to grow as a life coach dedicating her time and her expertise to help others achieve their goals. Hi, Leti. How are you today? Good morning. Well, how are you? I'm doing so good. I'm so excited for this conversation and to have you on. When we connected and the DMs on Instagram, I was like, I'm gonna ask her to be on my podcast, so I'm so excited that you agreed. So happy. I'm here. Yeah, I do one of those things with DM. I want to get to know everyone. So it's like, how can I help? It's like people automatically, Think of it like, Oh my God, is she going to sell me a course? Is she going to sell me some coaching? What does she do? It's like, no, I genuinely want to see if I could help with something. so being on the podcast is my way for serving or helping someone. So I'm grateful you have me here. Yes, that's so amazing. you can feel that on Instagram or social media when someone is just trying to kind of sell you something and you're like, no, I genuinely do want to get to know you. And, and you can feel it, so we just had, I felt like a good connection. I love when I get people who are in my DMs and they really just want to have a conversation and get to know me. So I felt that from you. I appreciate that. And look, now I even got your digits. Yeah, that's right. Okay, so I want to start by, you have a pretty interesting background just kind of throughout your journey, the different areas that you've dabbled in. So I just want you to share a little bit about that so I started, my career in the entertainment business. I became a singer and now being in singer as, I grew up in New York since I was 11 years old, but my background is Albanian. So I got into the Albanian music. It was like a mistake that I got into the hip hop industry there. And I was the first woman that broke those barriers. Then from there moved on to reality TV and throughout the years I dibbled and dabbled in businesses Back and forth. I tried retail. I tried spa salon Invested in a few businesses. So the music industry was also my investment with my business so everything that I did I kind of wore all the hats of Also being on stage, but also being backstage and having to do all the marketing, all the sales, all the PR by myself and maintaining my name. So throughout the years I became the brand. So wherever my name went and I pivot to, I have this following the kind of followed my journey and about. Six years ago, I became a mom, so I got into a new relationship and found out I was pregnant. I became a mom. I said, wait, wait, wait. All this craziness in the music industry, all the craziness of always being on TV, always being in the media. That is not what I'm looking for anymore. I'm looking for a pivot. So my husband and I decided to open up an IT company. And this was my first time getting into the service industry, and he had been in it for a very long time and kind of joined forces where he does the IT back end stuff and I do more of the PR, the marketing and the sales aspect of it. I fell in love with the service industry. But it wasn't loving enough for me. So I love the fact that I'm serving people, but I wasn't serving my ideal client. I love the fact that I was remotely. I learned how to work from home before even COVID started. But I wanted to do more. I'm a face to face kind of girl. So I want to feel that energy. I want to feel that, that situation you're going through and I want to guide you through it. So I went back to sort of like, what do I do? Now we have built this crazy business who has skyrocketed. And here I am saying, I don't feel fulfilled. It's not enough for me. I want more. And it's not even the money aspect of it. It's more of a, who am I serving? Yes. Money is great. The jobs are great, but that's only for a short period of time. I was still empty inside. Then I dibbled and dabbled and I went through coaching, mentoring, bought every course, everything that is possible, trying to figure out What is Letty? Who is she? Not the Letty that has been created through the years, you know, for the Albanians, I'm this pop star, entertainment woman, giving back to the community for my American audience. I'm this entrepreneur, always going at it crazy, regardless of her failures. And I said, how do I redefine who is me, my purpose, and who do I serve with this knowledge that I have? Without losing my way in it of doing it for the money for doing it more for the mission. And that's when I fell back in love with figuring out who I am and serving women, serving moms at the moment, through coaching, through building a new life in the business industry again, but more of, you know, it wasn't just missing the part of changing, but redefining your purpose, your passion, and then doing you. Did you know anyone who was in the coaching space and was really into personal development before you started? Absolutely not. I knew absolutely no one. And the craziest aspect of all of this is at the moment when I had been going through personal development for about three years by myself, just books, no real guidance of mentors, podcasts and books. And there was a moment where I am in Dominican Republic and we had invested in a new business with my husband. Extended our business there. And we're trying to figure out like, okay, what's next? What's next? What do we do? And I was feeling empty. And I said, right now we've invested all our money. We can't invest anymore, like enough with the investments because we have invested all of our income in this new business that we were developing. And I said, I heard a name of a coach of a mentor that a girl was saying that a webinar, um, a free webinar. And I said. You know what? I'm just going to hire her. What's the worst that could happen. And I jumped on her DMS and I said to her, Hey, I want to work with you. She said, great. Because she was attracting her ideal client. She was launching her, her program. And she said 6, 000, I turned around, I have my baby, my second baby. So now one is almost two years old and the other one's a few months old and I'm holding him in the middle of Santa Domingo and I'm going, Oh, six grand. I just feel like. I need more guidance and direction, applied for a credit card, because I did not have it, bought the course, I had no idea what the hell she was selling, and I told her I have no idea. I just feel like I need to take this crazy, messy action, because I'm looking for more. So I'm just going to join the program. It's probably not going to be what I need. But I know you'll give me the guidance to get to that person that I need in my life. 20 minutes later, I found out after investing in a three month coaching program, my dad has COVID, there's no rooms in the hospital, there's no oxygen, and now I can't get any more credit cards to fly out to Europe because everybody is invested in the business. But to answer your questions, no, I didn't know, but I wasn't going to stop investing. Until I made this piece of the puzzle and those crazy actions led for me meeting someone else and taking someone else's this course and someone else's, mentorship to kind of taking all these pieces of the puzzle and putting them together and say, Okay, now this is the new me. I've redefined. I've rebranded me inside, not just me outside. So looking back to that moment when you're holding your baby and you, you have this decision to make, and it's a lot of money, it's a big investment is there any regret? No, I never, ever. See, I was, I was born, but also developed through my mom, this mindset and the challenges to always face on forward. Um, We have always said, yes, we are hardheaded and yes, we take crazy decisions, but we do it because we need to move forward, whatever it is, we have to move forward. And unless we make some kind of decision, there's no wrong decision. There's a decision that doesn't take you one step closer to learning something. So I was born, my mom is like that, but also she has always pressured and pressure, literally pressured. Just don't stop. Don't stop. You have the capability as a woman to build a baby in your body. Why can't you build a career or build a business or rebuild you? So if you as a woman could do this inside of you, why can't you do everything else? Like, what's the excuse, almost? That is so empowering to have. All that support, you know from your mom who believes in you and it's like no you're gonna believe in yourself I believe in you it's happening. All right, there's nothing you can't do I love that so much and for me I'm a strong believer in if you have a gut feeling about something and you know, that's the direction that you need to head in You're going to find a way regardless on how to get there And that was your way. you're like, I'm taking a chance. I have a gut feeling. This is it for me. I love that you listen to your intuition on that. you share what you offer what you do for people who might be interested in coaching? It's like going to mosque or church and asking like the priest or the imam like What do I do? So i've become this resource for people I personally offer either life coaching on online business coaching So for someone who is a service provider who wants to take their passion and turn it into a little profit Why the hell not? Because you're serving the world. You're taking your knowledge to serve the world. But a lot of the time starts with your mindset. So not everyone wants to make an extra side hustle or an extra income with her passion. My ultimate purpose is for you to redefine who you are as a person, rebuild you, your mindset. And then whatever you do, at least, even if it's not for the money asset, take your passion, the knowledge that you have and serve it with the world. Even if it is to do good, even if it is donating your time to podcast or speaking at an event, because we all have so much in us that we've. It can throughout the years. We've learned throughout the years in a job in a business working for someone that somebody else needs it. I always say we all have like the cure to cancer. We all know something that somebody else is two steps behind us that doesn't know. But I would love to reinforce your mindset for you to take whatever that is to start with the world. I love your work. I think it's so incredible. I know I've been through this myself, and I see this even with my patients, anytime that we're trying to make a change. and establish new habits and a new mindset we end up feeling this resistance And that can make us feel overwhelmed and stuck it just feels very uncomfortable for anyone who's getting that resistance. What would you tell them? You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. That would be the first one. Second one is you can't help everyone. But if you do want to help and your job or your business is not filling that cup, then go find the people who want that specific help. Not everyone's born an entrepreneur and we have to make peace with that. Not everyone wants to start a side hustle or a business. And I've made peace with that. But redefined. If you want to make a difference, if you want to impact and it doesn't always have to be, we start with family members. We try to, we learn this one thing and we start with our family members. Like they didn't ask for our help, but we have to go find the people who want to help us in our job, in our day to day basis. We are playing the therapist. We are playing the life coach. We are motivating someone. We all have friends who come to us for different, various problems that we're not the expert of that problem. But we give them some kind of hope and guidance, and we don't have to stop with that. It is okay not to help everyone, but you could also make it okay for you to go find someone who wants your help and devote your time. Serve. So when I'm working with people trying to put myself in a situation where I'm acknowledging that yes, you're here and you have all these things that you're going through in your life and I'm trying to make them be seen, like this is hard what you're doing. You're trying to make these shifts. You may feel overwhelmed. You may feel stuck in your situation, but you're doing the hard work by showing up and that doesn't go unnoticed by me. So I think I've noticed it most when I'm putting it in those terms for someone and I'm looking at them and I'm making them feel seen I'm just saying I hear you, I see you and what you're doing is hard, but you have everything in you to reach your goals and do what it takes. And I believe in you and I'm in your corner. I'm your support. I'll be your accountability. But that means so much to people versus, like, let me give you all the tips and strategies. That's great. But really they just need to know that we believe in you and we support you and we're going to hold you accountable along the way and give you some tips, you know, but people want to be heard instead of just do, do, do, do. Like, for the past, I think five years. I don't say anymore. How are you? I say, how do you feel? Yeah. Because the second you say someone, how are you? It's like, I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. And they're rushing to the next thing. So I want to break that pattern in their head because it's going nonstop. And I'm like, how do you feel? I was like, good. How do you really feel? And even if they don't answer back, I know sometimes the moms, when I drop off the kids, I see them get in the car and they're like, how do I feel? I don't like, I don't know. Like, I don't know. I'm like, ask yourself, how do you feel? Just to like calm everything down for a second and just be. Just be instead of two. We've turned into the robots just of doing non stop things. Next thing on a task list. Check, check, check, check. Instead of just just like, okay, let me feel. Let me feel all the fields internally. And for you being there for your patients and just having them seen and stopping there for a minute and just saying, I'm here to hold your hand. It's a big difference for them. Just to pause for a second and know what's going on. They're not alone, that accountability. So, another thing that I see a lot of when I'm working with my patients, and it's the work that I did for myself is limiting beliefs. Right. We all have these things that we grew up believing within ourselves. And sometimes it really prevents us from reaching our goals. Do you have a limited belief that you have a mind sharing? I have so many of all, there's this theory that if you're a mindset coach or a motivational speaker, or if you're an entrepreneur that you've gone through those phases, you've passed those phases and you're okay. You're never okay because the bigger the challenge or the new thing that we're doing or the more that we're working, they're always coming back. But I always say I eat my ego for dinner. Like once I sit there, I'm done. I'm like, it's over. Once I have breakfast and I have my coffee, it's like over with that belief system. It's still pops up. So the limiting belief of being worthy, are you worthy? Are you good enough? Can you do more? Can you help more? This always pops up with me. But sit in there and saying, is this the little lady? My inner child of the things that I've gone through. And I've also gone through a lot of healing and a lot of grief and a lot of working on myself I feel like once you're in entrepreneurship and personal development, it's goes hand in hand. So you're either doing like 80 percent personal development and 20 percent entrepreneurship or vice versa. So the limiting beliefs pops up every single day. There's no hiding from them. You can work for it at a certain moment, but the more you work, the easier it gets. And then there's seasons. But I'm able to sit down there and say to myself, is this my inner child? Am I scared because of the way I was raised? Is this because of What my parents taught me because they didn't know any better. They knew what they knew. It's different now. Or is this me the present moment? Because I'm afraid to take that next step to move forward inside. Once you sit with you you know what you want, you know, exactly what you want. So I say every day, when you wake up, you power up. The reason why you power up is because you have a choice. You're alive in the morning. Do you want to relive yesterday and the beliefs and the fears of yesterday? Or do you want to make a change today? So whatever that thing was, when you went to bed, and last night I had a really rough night. Because there was so many worries coming. I can do more, lady. I can do more. Is this enough? Am I serving the ideal client? Can I serve more? And at night I do, a lot of people like to journal, but I like to do what I call a brain dump or a letter to myself. And I write everything out that I'm thinking and feeling and in the morning I revisit it and all the beliefs I already see them in a piece of paper. It's my old me. It's my fears. So I have a choice bright and early in the morning before my kids wake up, before my husband wakes up and say, do I want to be that girl life last night? Was that the old me? Was that the last night me? Or do I get to change that and become the better version of me? I have a choice. Sometimes, guess what, Jen? Sometimes it's going to be that scared lady, that little child who's like, no, no, no, I need one more day. And that is okay. I make peace with that. I'm afraid. Okay. I make peace with that for the next day. I'm going to revisit her and say, Hey, are you ready to change? Until I feel okay enough to make that change. I was going to ask you that if you had a daily practice that helps with your mindset and overcoming challenges that you have. So that is such a beautiful example. And I've done some of that work myself too. And then, things are going good. And then I'm like, Oh, it's great. And then I fall off of these habits where I'm like, that was good. Why did I stop that? I think a lot of people run into that too. So it's that awareness and that compassion When that does happen, don't beat yourself up over it. the good thing is, you know, it works. Like I have the tools, I know it works, so let's get back to it. I think that could be helpful for people but is there anything else that you try to make sure that you're doing daily that really helps with your mindset? Accountability. I think this became so important for me after, having my second child and trying to do it all alone. So people were used to letting, kind of knowing everything, the how. So they come to me and they're preaching how, how, how, and I just give them the tools and the tips and the strategies. And then I'm implementing it myself, but I didn't have anybody there to hold me accountable. I didn't have a group of women, friends, whoever it is, that knew exactly about my journey that we're going through the same exact journey. So a lot of the times we have mentors, but the mentors are a few steps ahead of us and it gets scary because it's like, we're looking at the mentors, like the mentors, I do it, do it, do it, do it, do it, you could do it. And they're pushing us and they're motivating us and just so scary. So I'm like, okay, I need to have myself accountability. A few women who are a few steps behind me and a few women who are a few steps In front of me. So I have the best of both worlds. I have someone who's telling me push, push, push. And somebody's telling me, it's scary, but do you want to do that? Cause I want to do that too. And they're looking up to me and they're motivating me to move forward because if I do it, then they could also learn. So having both sides of that. It's so helpful for me knowing that I could find that balance and whenever I'm scared, I can go to the women who are a few steps behind me and go, Oh my God, you know what I'm trying to do? I'm trying to do this. And they're like, Ooh, that's cool. I would love that. Can you figure it out? Cause we're too scared. Now I have a purpose to also do it for them. Not just for me. That's my biggest accountability. I love how you are describing this because I think people get in a situation where they're like, well, I don't have anyone above me or anyone that can hold me accountable. And My thing is like people aren't just going to come to you sometimes like you have to go out and seek them So it's you put yourself in those rooms in those situations where you can find those accountability people And I've found the most success in my life when I do have an accountability or people My husband and I were just having this conversation last night at dinner, and I was just talking about all the things that I've been doing and going through this past year. And he's like, I have seen so much growth in you this year. And he started talking about things that he wanted to do So I felt like I was a couple of steps ahead of him in that area And that made me feel good. I was like, Oh my gosh, this is incredible. But it also made him feel good. So we're like, Um, and I think that's a really important thing to keep in mind is that, you know, we're all feeding off of each other at this point, but it really does make a huge difference to have those inner people, the, that circle around you where you can motivate them and they motivate you very easy to find. We're just not looking most of the time. They're so easy to find because at any moment we could go into a random Facebook group. If you're a woman, if you're in a relationship, like a relationship group, and you could just be vulnerable. Your first step is being vulnerable. Hey. I am so and so, and I need help with, and the second you put it out there, it's like the universe and God already has a reason to push you forward, but you can't wait for everybody else to push you forward. It's like, second you say it, you're aware of, I need help with, you're going to have so many people jump in the comments and say, Hey, I'm here. Now we're going to have those people who are selling you something like they have a program and they deserve to have that. Their only difference between someone who's offering a program and someone who's doing it for free is they're charging their worth. So then you make a choice. Do you want someone to help you or give you some guidance or a little, a boost? Then you take that free advice and you say, Hey, I am feeling this way. I am looking for an accountability partner. I feel like I am always being. I'm stuck here, or at the moment I'm stuck here. Would any women like to join a little WhatsApp group with me? I'm looking for five women. We're not selling anything to each other. Maybe we could just do a Zoom once a month. So you also said you've done some speaking? Do you have any advice for anyone who wants to be a speaker And did you have any fears or reservations around speaking when you first started? Well, I started on stage when I was about 16, I get my first practices on stage. My mom had a little, deli. And I sold my first chocolate bar in her deli when I was seven years old. So it was about selling something or giving a value and emotion to someone else. So I've been training for so many years to be on stage. I don't think I have the fears of stage because The more you do it, the more confident and then once you build that confidence, like riding a bicycle, you might be rusty a couple of times, but not for a very long time. So I'm not going to sit here and tell you like, oh, it's easy. You have to get in front of people and talk. It could be. Your family members, it could be people at the park, random people. Sometimes I practice random mobs at the park and I approach them. And I'm like, how do you feel? Hey, can I tell you about something? Can I share something with you? They usually run away, but then I start speaking and little by little, you up the dose. So you get in front of a room of a few more people, a few more events. Then you start appearing at events. And then you ask the host, Hey, I would like to share something. This is what's in my, if you were to give me 30 minutes of speak about something, what would that thing be? And then you find that thing that you want to speak about and you find rooms of people who are there that want to know about that thing that you're speaking about. If you're talking about motherhood, if you're talking about entrepreneurship, if you're talking about personal development, what does that think that you overcame yourself? And you show up and if you can't find those rooms that you're saying I'm so busy between work and family and this going on show up on Instagram. I showed up yesterday on Instagram or last week. I showed up on Instagram when you were there. And I was having such a hard time with myself because I lost a very big audience speaking in English and not speaking in Albanian. So people were popping in, they were saying, oh, let him speak in English, let me leave. Or, can you speak in Albanian? I said, no, no, I decide right now, I want to serve my English audience, even if it's one person. And you were there, Jen! You stayed! Yes! So imagine the fears and limiting beliefs of showing up to a stage. Instagram is a stage going online and all these people show up to see you and you decide to speak a different language. But that one person that stayed was you. And I just spoke because that's what I was feeling at that moment. But to me, it matters. Not serving everyone. It matters because one person I served and it was you. And I said a few words, got us to connect a little bit better, got us to be relatable and got me on this podcast. And you're serving your audience by gifting them me. Maybe it's not the most perfect speech or podcast, but out of all those people who are going to listen, maybe that one person would say, I needed this. Thank you, Jen. Thank you, Liddy. So that's your stage. Yes. Oh my gosh, that's so good. What I hear, when you're saying this, and this is what I'm trying to do is you have a desire, like, you had something that you wanted to do, and so you didn't just sit with the thought, like, that'd be great, I really want to do that. You're like, no, let me take action on it, even if this is a little bit scary, and that is a big transition from serving one population and one group and then you're switching over to something completely different and like you're saying there was one person that showed up and I think that's a fear of people going live on Instagram or doing anything new like what if no one shows up you know so yeah that I don't know I just really love that but it's the repetition like you're saying it's like you have to do the thing that you want to do and when I started this podcast I it was something I sat on for two years and I really wanted to do it. It was a big desire of mine, but I wasn't taking action on it. And then finally I got fed up with just thinking about it. So I was like, no, I'm going to do it and see what happens. And then I started it. And then I'm like, kind of dragging my feet on asking people to be a guest on my show. Because I have this limited belief on, I don't think I'm a good interviewer, well, how am I going to get good at it? Well, I have to do it. So I need to ask people, right? So I'm stepping out of my comfort zone. And it's funny Because I've had so many people tell me once I started showing myself more and speaking more that they like to hear me talk, and they think I'm a good speaker, and I'm like, whoa, what? I'm like, because I've told myself for so long that, oh, you don't have anything interesting to say, or, you're not a great speaker I've just, said so many negative things to myself. And then when I'm hearing that, I'm like, have I just been feeding myself lies this whole time? So it's trying to rework that and tell myself something that is actually true. And it is the repetition. So I think that's amazing advice. It's like, you got to do the repetition. You got to have a goal and then you got to take action and you got to repeat it, repeat it, repeat it. Cause how else are you going to get good at it? You know, I'm going to give you a, first of all, I want you to say, I am a great speaker. I am a great speaker. Okay, loud and mean it. I am a great speaker! Louder. Louder? Oh my gosh, I can't do it louder. I want you, I want you to close your eyes and believe it. Can you see it? You're being a great speaker. Yes, I can. Okay. Now scream it to the top of your lungs. The more you scream it, the better you become. This is a great practice. Do you want me to actually do this? Yeah. Oh my gosh. You could edit it later if you want to. And I will do this, but before I do this, I don't know if it was on Lori Harder. Are you familiar with her? Yes, I love her. So I think it was an Instagram reel that she did and she was talking about one of the first retreats that she had been to and she had to get in a circle and she had to write down whatever her limited belief is and then scream it out. And I think hers was, I am powerful or something like that. And she said the first time she did it, she just fell to her knees. And they made her stay there until she was screaming it to the top of her lungs and believing it. That is such. I think a empowering exercise to do. So it's so funny that you're bringing this to me because I just saw this one or two weeks ago, but I also am such a believer that what you need will come to you. So I believe that you are bringing this exercise to me because it is something that I needed when I just seen it before and now I'm hearing it again. So that's incredible that you're doing. And I'm a believer, I'm a believer That when the universe or God, whatever you believe and brings it to you, then you don't sit and wait on it for too long because the longer you wait, the longer you sit or not take an action, you are just feeding more to your fear, you are feeding more to your limiting beliefs and that you mentioned already harder. She was actually my mentors mentor. So I've been in a lot of virtual events where she came and spoke in the sessions and we all start from zero. But at the moment, I'm not Lori Harder. Lori Harder has put in the work for so many years. She has done the things that I have not done yet. I have not put in the work that she has put in. So a lot of the times looking at Lori Harder, I'm like, Oh my gosh, she's a hundred steps ahead of me, but wait. Let me look back, lady. I can't compete or compare with Lori. I have to look at the first step I have to take if I want to become a Lori, or if I want to be at an event like Lori, or if I want to speak like Lori. A lot of times, we want something that's so high ahead. Of us, and we say to ourselves, we want that great. I want that too. And I want that for you. But when we start seeing how high the other person is, how many steps further they are, it gets scarier. Listen to this. But this is one of the biggest reasons why I follow or I mute people often, regardless of their mentors or coaches or people who inspire me. We set up this New Year's resolution, or we make a vision board, mood board, we say our highest self wants to be a millionaire or wants to have this career, wants to be on stage with a million women, a thousand women, clapping at them. And then we start following these people who are on stages to get inspired with a thousand women. But we're not looking at their journey that they might have started on Instagram with zero followers, we don't look at their journey that maybe they got in front of their family members or friends and said, Hey, can I practice? I want to be a speaker. Maybe they got in front of the mirror and start practicing what it was scary, the scariest part is looking at yourself dead in the eye and speaking and keep fighting your fears. So the second we look at somebody else's journey, and we're trying to achieve that and we don't get there fast enough, because we want it so badly that we're looking at the last step, but not the first step. So instead of looking at the last step, I always look at one step ahead of, yes, my big goal, my big vision is to get there. No, I don't want to think of my five year plan. I want to talk about it. I want to set it aside and I want to reverse engineer it and say, what's my first, second, third step. And if I get to there, I'm going to reward myself and push myself to six, seven, eight, nine, 10, and so on and so forth. So that could be very motivating, but I also could be very disencouraging to not reaching that goal because fear is We were already born with them and society has implemented so much every day, so much on us that reinforces something in our brain is made to survive. So, of course, it's going to reinforce us to survive and get back to our comfort zone instead of motivating us and push us to get further. That is such a great point, and it's something that I did, because Lori Harder's one of the people that I listened to her podcast for years, and I was like, oh my gosh, she's so good, but I didn't hear her when she first started her podcast. I came after that. So I was like, you know what, let me go back to some of her first podcasts and see what it is. And of course, I still think it's great, right, but I don't know. It's different. She's grown so much in her podcast and the way she approaches things like she was in the living room, I think her first episode, and then she has grown to having more and more people on and her interviewer skills have gotten better. And then she's, going from audio to video to doing it in person. So there's so much growth there. It's great to see the potential like, that you can reach that. But it's reminding yourself and going back to look, if you can, at where they started. that's what I try to be intentional and mindful about. So I appreciate you sharing that. It's so good. And so that I do not let myself off the hook because we got distracted. I am going to do that. So I'm going to give everyone a second to turn down their volume on here. I'm going to close my eyes and I'm going to scream to the top of my lungs that I am a good speaker. Did I say great or good? I'm going to say great. Incredible. The most powerful speaker. Oh my gosh. I want everyone to do that. You have to do whatever they want, whatever they have a limiting belief on. So I actually feel like there's a release inside. Now I want you to do this. And for anyone listening to this, whatever that goal is for you, if it is speaking, if it is working on yourself, if it's doing the dishes every night, or making a thousand dollars extra a week, I want you to write that down every night. I am and then fill in the blanks. And when you wake up in the morning, the first thing that you say to yourself, what would it take for me to get 1 percent better to that goal? That's it. You're powering your brain up. You're powering yourself up. If the first thing in the morning you're saying, what would it take for me? Not the how. We get stuck on the how do I do this? Is it real? Is it an audio? Do I need a video? What do I need? No, no, no. What would it take? Not how do I do it? What would it take for me to get one step closer? One step. One percent. And every night you retract back and you say, I did that. I did one action. One thing. I got closer now if you're able to do two or three god bless you But don't put so much pressure on yourself on having to revamp everything in one day start slow That small, build momentum, consistency, discipline, and then get into the actions every day. And when you look back, you'll say, Oh, I am, that he was right. I have a powerful speaker. Thank you so, so much. Okay. So looking into the future, what does that look like for you? What do you have envisioned? What's in store for you? The future is big. My vision board is still big. That I hold myself so accountable that in my future, the only thing that I could see clearly in my future is being a woman who takes care of herself first, being a present mom, being able to have a relationship where we're motivated each other and given the space where we could both have separate journeys that lead into one. I don't live for him, he doesn't live for me. We're both working in ourselves on our businesses for our journey. Our vision for our family is the same. That's three and four. My mission is to empower moms, teach them mindset, marketing and a way for them to make extra money. For some reason, us women these days, if we don't make that extra money to bring in, to help the husband, the family, we feel so empty because we know we could, and we want more. And in the times like today. We do need two incomes in a household, but we also want to be moms. We want to be present, but we know that we can work a little extra. And we know that if we work a little extra, we can make a little bit more money to help the financial situation, to help to have that date night with a husband. So for me, is it really important that if a woman has a passion and wants to make that, to give her the space and the knowledge where she could also bring in extra income with her passion. Your future is big and you are going to continue to impact so many lives. I just know it I can't wait to continue following you and your journey and I just so appreciate you being on my podcast and helping people and helping me. You're just an amazing woman. So thank you so much. Before we go, I have a question. What is your favorite book? Ooh, Think and Grow Rich. Stop. That's mine. I have probably four of the same versions on my shelf and I just like to look at it, even though I've read it so many times. Um, when I read it, it wasn't about getting rich. I thought it was about getting rich. Me too. Okay. Open up my first business. Okay. Thinking grow beds. Okay. I'm thinking I'm doing all the strategies, that didn't work out. I'm like, this doesn't align with me. For the listeners that don't know me, probably the people who are going to listen to this and don't me, they know how I take such a quick action and I will jump from one business to another business. If that business does not align with my intuition, it doesn't align with me serving or healthy people, like burn down the business, burn it all down. We're leaving. So I think by the eighth time that I read it, I'm at a different stage of my life. And I do read that book once a year because every year I'm growing so much and I go back and I read the book. Thinking Grow Rich and Atomic Habits are the two books that I will always go back to and reread them in the beginning of year or if I'm revamping the new version of me, the higher version of me. And I'm like, what am I thinking? But then Atomic Habits kind of like goes hand in hand with that. And it's like, okay, so how do I implement that, make that a habit for myself? And thinking of being rich is not even a money. thing to me anymore with the book. It's like the richness of, of the feeling, of the being, of the having more abundance that goes deeper into it. Into the book, but he also teached me that everybody could go back to zero, you know, so it's so many inspiring stories there that, I do go back to it once a year. That has been a life changing book for me, and I've heard some people say, I, I can't get into that book, and I'm like, how? Like, what do you mean? to each their own but it, is an incredible book, so if you have not read that book for anyone listening, I would highly recommend giving it a shot. And I love that it's one of our favorite books. And I haven't read Atomic Habits yet. I have it on my shelf and I've had it for a long time. I don't know why I'm sitting on this book, but this is motivating me to want to read it now. So I'm going to give it a, give it a go. This is your chance, because now that you are a powerful speaker. Now that you need to take action and ask yourself every morning, what would it take for me to get one step closer? I think Atomic Habits will go right hand in hand with that for you um, a few tips that I just want to, leave the listeners and leave you with it. Regardless of You just want to revamp your mindset, you know, live a better life, uh, have that freedom. For me, it's all about that time freedom, financial freedom, physical, mental freedom. So life is all about freedom to me, not having to do it, be able to do it because I really want to do it. Everything could give you momentum. A reel on your page should give you momentum. A reel on my page can give you momentum. The momentum is not enough. The work with an accountability or a mentor, the momentum is not going to be enough. You need the repetition and you need the accountability, but it's your choice. The accountability that you take. There's always two options of accountability. You go to someone who is in the same mindset as you. Your friends, your family, and the lights shut off. It's like the sign from the universe, the sign from God, and it's like, feel it when you say it. You don't need the light on you, just say it. You have two choices. You get the help from a professional that speeds up the process, or you get the help with the free mentors, the free podcast, the free content, but you need to get the help. You don't have to do it alone. Your superpower is not, and this is from someone who has suffered for so many years trying to be a super mom, super entrepreneur, super mindset coach, super at everything. You don't have to be super at everything, but if you want to be super at that one thing, get the help of someone who is a few steps ahead of you, so you can get there faster. Money, you can always make. Time you will never ever get back. So get to it faster great advice. So good. I love it so where can people find you because they are gonna want to follow you? I just know it they can find my personal page at lady Um, or they could follow my business page at power up woman on social media. All right. And I'm going to link it in the show notes too. So everyone go follow Letty. She's an incredible woman. You really truly are. So thank you so much. I appreciate you. I'm so grateful. I'm so grateful for every second of you and this listener who is listening to this podcast for giving me the opportunity to listen. You guys, I have to take a minute to share with you an amazing store that just opened up a few weeks ago in Geneva, Ohio. Ben bargains aims to make your shopping experience affordable while providing quality products at unbeatable prices. And when I say on beautiful prices, that is exactly what I mean. They offer the most incredible highlight items in their bins. Insane deals, a few things that they've thrown in there.$7 bins are a PlayStation five AirPods iPads. Amazing toys for over a hundred dollars home decor. 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